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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think your friend probably can't have children (but then, there was somebody on the other thread who had twins at 54!), but if she were to have the children, it would be to the benefit of those children. I am a child of older parents (39, 42). They died when I was in my mid-twenties/early thirties. It was tough, but would I rather not to have been born? That's crazy. I am grateful that they gave me birth and miss them dearly. It helps that I have 2 older siblings whom I am very close to.[/quote]

Yes, but there is a 15 year difference between when you were born and when this lady wants to conceive.  If it was hard loosing your parents as a 20-30 something with older siblings, immagine how much more difficult it would be to have both parents pass away from old age when you are a young or mid teen without any siblings.  I[b]magine having to deal with a parent facing dementia, alzheimers or crippling physical deterioration of your parents by yourself as a teen.  Or having to negotiate home health care or nursing homes for your parents when you are only a teen.[/b]

It is a big difference from your parents having a last minute surprise in their late 30s/early 40s.[/quote]

Yes, that's would be harder, but still much preferable [i]to never be born[/i]. I am pretty sure that less than 1% of children born to older parents (however defined) commit suicide. That itself proofs that want to be alive.

Btw, I was not a surprise child. My mother had difficulty conceiving me and went through some lengths to get me.

To sums this up: having children or not might or might not be a good idea for the parents, but it will, with 99% likelihood, be a good idea for any child that is being born.[/quote]

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