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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Such great examples of false equivalences. Since when do the beliefs held by the men who murdered Ahmaud Arbery BECAUSE HE WAS BLACK and the town's police force and district attorney who aided them fall into the same types of "diversity of thought" as Black moms calling for access to better K-12 schools for their Black children?

There is zero reason to respect, nurture, or promote diversity of thought among those who believe that some people should not be equal under law because of their race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, or other characteristics. “We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.”
― James Baldwin
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This is not what's going on here. At all. No one is saying that OP's child must meet and respect people who murdered Ahmaud Arbery. It's [b]OP's assumption that everyone who lives outside of DC believes in things that OP thinks are unethical or immoral. [/b]It's a ridiculous level of projection and OP's child hasn't even meet these people. Or know what they think.[/quote]

NP. That's not OP's assumption at all. You're describing a caricature of what OP is saying that you've invented.

OP's belief (based on having lived in a conservative place) is that certain beliefs are more common in certain places. Do you think that's untrue? That acceptance of, say, same sex marriage is the same in Alabama as it is in Delaware? I've lived in the rural South and I've lived in DC and if you're trying to say there aren't differences in what most people believe between those places you're wrong. There are.[/quote]

Of course there are differences in beliefs. That's the whole point of the conversation. What do you do in the face of those differences? Do you keep to your bubble and continue to point fingers or do you go out and engage.[/quote]

OP is asking how to prepare kids to have those conversations, while maintaining their belief in the values they were raised with, when they are in places where those values are less common. OP is specifically talking about people going outside the "bubble" they were raised in. Lecturing about bubbles isn't answering the question, and it's pretty rich to talk about the importance of these conversations when you can't even honestly describe what OP is saying.[/quote]

I personally suggested Adam Grant's "Think Again" and I'll also suggest "You Have More Influence Than You Think" by Vanessa Bohns. I don't suggest OP talk to her kids about it. Not only will they roll their eyes but it's a clear indication that OP doesn't have faith in her kids. These convos should have been had when they were tweens.

The kids will encounter people with differences in opinion to varying degrees. It's going to happen. Even in DC where people can be aligned 99% find things to fight about intensely in the smallest difference in opinion. Can they listen first and then respond in a way that resonates with the other person? These are skills that should be learned. In that way, moving to a conservative state is great practice.[/quote]

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