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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thinking back to when I was 35...the most difficult part of my marriage was having two toddlers. We didn't have a whole lot of time for each other.[/quote]

If you think it is hard now, wait until they are teenagers.  We have ages 15, 14, and 10 and they require far more time and energy on our part.   I wish we could turn back to the toddler stage.  [/quote]

I have teens now and cannot stand when people say this. The stresses are completely different, and there is no reason to compare like this. And the difficulties of the different stresses depend in large part on the parents' personalities. So, yes, dealing with teens' sullenness, independence, exposure to sex and drugs, increased schoolwork and school pressures, school and extracurricular activities, etc. can be difficult, but some parents are totally ok with all that. Likewise with toddlers and all the loss of freedom for the parents, the constant motion and following them around, the irrational toddler angst, etc. But some people love that age. [/quote]

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Why, in the list of things that are difficult about having teens, does no one ever mention the cooking and laundry.  I have three teen boys who play sports, and I have to make so much food and wash so many dirty clothes every day.  It’s kind of unbelievable.  [/quote]

PP here, but I'm not sure laundry is more with teens than with babies/toddlers, and I would say that overall the cleaning is less now. Toddlers are chaos machines that make messes everywhere, and yet it is difficult to get them to clean up or really do any chore. Sure, you can start teaching them, but it is time consuming. With teens, you can have them help at least.

I hear you on the cooking, and more than that, the grocery shopping. The amount of food consumed is shocking.[/quote]

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