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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You say your not in her house op but if you were then yes her house her rules. Regarding screens, food, sleep, showers really everything is up to her in her house. If she tells you to give her your phone you hand it over . [/quote]

This is the weirdest post on this thread. If you’re at someone’s house, you literally have to do everything they say? If an adult I’m staying with demands that I give them my phone, I’m not handing it over, period. You have gone off the rails with hosts’ rights here. [/quote]

I thought we were talking about children, not other adults. Yes, children, including teens, should listen and do what the adults in their family say.[/quote]

If you tell my teenager to give you her phone, she won’t and I will support that. She’s not your kid. You don’t get to dictate that, your house or not.

If you have something to say about my kid while she’s in your house, you come to me or her dad. Parent your own children and know when you’ve overstepped.

And that business about how sleep, food and showers are also at the hosts’ directive? No. This is BAD HOST behavior. [/quote]

I disagree strongly. When in another person's home, kids should do as requested by those adults. Not GIVE the phone, but yes, put it away.[/quote]

I guess we can agree to disagree because it's still parenting my kids in a way I am not universally comfortable with. I can't tell if the SIL being described is OP's sibling's wife, OP's partner's sibling, or OP's partner's sibling's partner. I would personally be uncomfortable with my sister's husband or brother's wife bossing my kids around about something like this. I would consider it an overstep, and I'd be annoyed about it. If it happened more than once in a weekend trip, I would tell them to stop parenting my kids.

When doing stuff with other people, whether it's at someone's house or an AirBNB or whatever, I expect other adults to come to me if they have concerns about my kids' behavior and activities. If the SIL said, "Hey Sarah, I'd really like if the kids put their phones away to spend time together" I would have backed that up. If we had previously had a conversation about phones being stashed during "core hours" or whatever, I would have been fine with Sarah saying "Hey kids, it's phones away time!" But in this particular situation, the OP's SIL, in a home that is not hers, is arbitrarily deciding when the kids should and should not have access to their phones. At the very least, this is a parent/parent conversation, not a one parent/all the kids conversation. [/quote]

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