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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't bring it up again.  No gift, no card, no more group vacations.[/quote]

This.  I know it doesn’t take away the hurt but keeping them at arms length is a protective measure.  Hopefully someday your brother and/or stepmother will ask and you can be candid that you were incredibly sad more than angry about being shut out when so many others were included.

Rest assured tongues will wag when your absence is noticed.  Make no excuses.  Tell
everyone the relationship was good and you have no indication why you were excluded.

What do the other siblings think? [/quote]

I posted already, but I think some people are stuck in a 1980s psychology mentality. Back then it was all about confrontation and you have to share your feelings. That backfired. If you are truly incredibly close, not close due to being born to the same dad, but actually close, then sure you gently bring it up and give him the benefit of the doubt. If you are simply family who grew up in the same home, but don't share a very close bond then let it go. Be polite. You are something like 12 years older right? Be the mature one. Be civil. He has shown you already where you are in importance. Receive the message, be polite, but protect yourself. At family gatherings be kind, but distant. Don't plan beach houses together. Weddings are emotional and stressful. Don't pick a fight. They knew what they were doing. Confronting him and saying you are hurt is not going to solve anything. It is normal to feel hurt. Process those feelings. Be gentle with yourself and take care of yourself. Clearly he does not see the relationship the same way you do, so let that go.

I am closer with my friends and my brother than with my sister. i consider my friends more like family than my sister. one of my good friends didn't invite me to her wedding. (To be honest I was relieved because I had a needy infant who cried bloody murder a lot). I thought we were closer and I invited her to many things. I still send a card of congrats from us. When she told me she was expecting, I sent her some baby clothes and a note. We have remained friends. She is now divorced. I still value that friendship. I understand we are not as close as I thought, but I am glad to be in her life and I truly am not offended. I know some people will say this is different, but she knows far more about me than my sister who was in the same house and only a few years older.[/quote]

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