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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ridiculous question OP.  Grow up.  Be a real parent. [/quote]
I don’t think it’s ridiculous. It’s not ridiculous at all in Europe! We are Jewish and recently started allowing our 13yo to partake in wine during Seder. Feel free to judge me to feel better about your rigid parenting. [/quote]

A once a year religious ritual where wine is an actual component of the ritual is obviously a very different thing than gratis, hotel provided champagne on vacation. Catholic children are able to drink a sip of Communion wine from age 8 or 9. No one takes issue with that.[/quote]

This is hilarious. So, it’s in poor taste, kids should never do it, you’re a terrible mother…wait! Religious? Totally fine.[/quote]

+1000

I’m trying to figure out how the alcohol in the religious ceremony is different from the alcohol that would be in OP’s daughters glass…[/quote]

I think you are being purposefully obtuse. Wine in a religious ceremony has a specific meaning. In my husband’s belief system, it’s not even wine once the priest blesses it for communion, it’s the literal blood of Jesus.

Wine for a celebration - wedding, graduation, “hooray we’re on vacation”, “cheers to grandma’s 100th birthday”, etc. is just that - a celebration. It’s still a celebration whether everyone has a glass to toast with or not. It’s still a celebration, even if the liquid in the glass is not bubbly or not alcoholic.

Also OP just said “hey we get a free bottle of wine” which is different IMO from “we’ll be attending my French cousin’s wedding in France”.  If it was a family wedding I’d probably think it made sense for OP to follow the local family’s lead - “when in France . . .” However OP is just implying that somehow the 12 yr old would feel left out if not included in the toast. Personally I think that’s a dumb reason to serve a tween alcohol on the cusp of the teen years. There are A LOT of things OP’s daughter will feel like she’s ready for and will complain about being left out / restricted from in the next 6 years. Waiting until a kid is older and more mature and managing their disappointment is part of parenting.

Whether the 12yr old is asking for alcohol or OP is just anticipating her own discomfort in denying her barely pubescent child the adult privilege of alcohol, I feel like OP needs to buckle up and work on some parenting skills before she has a full blown teenager. [/quote]

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