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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never "feel guilty" about the outsized expectations, demands, and preferences of grown, able-bodied, well-resourced adults. They can manage themselves. They can choose to be mature, supportive, understanding, and relaxed, or not. When they choose to get wound up and jealous and immature and deliberately obtuse, that's really not my problem.

We're going to make the decisions that are best for OUR family. Stay mad, Janet.[/quote]

Hell yes. Totally agree. I'm over it. I am civil, kind and make sure to support my kids and husband having a relationship with them but I don't put the mental energy or time into worrying about what they think of me (we are polar opposites politically and it was at times contentious but I don't take the bait anymore). My motto with them is "take what they can give and leave the rest."

I think you would feel a lot better if you felt like your husband truly had your back. Try to sort that out with him as honestly and fairly as you can.[/quote]

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