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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being really real with you, given the anonymity  of this board? Marrying well was my #1 focus from the age of 20 or so on. Every relationship, I was thinking about marriage. I dumped any guy who was squishy on marrying young. Also any guy who didn’t share my vision for a successful life (yes, including high paying careers). I didn’t spend my 20s going out. I was neurotic about my “body count” because I was worried about scaring off potential husbands. I picked my grad school program because I thought it would give me the best dating options out of the programs I was admitted to (and I was right). I met my husband in grad school and we were married the day after graduation, both mid-late 20s.

I don’t say this all to be smug. Even though it worked out for me, and I have a great husband, there’s no doubt it came at a cost, and I do feel a little sad my 20s didn’t include more adventure and fun. [/quote]

I wasn't as calculated as this, but yes I never once dated someone without thinking of marriage. I was not looking for a FWB or just a random guy to date and have fun with. Nope, they had to be marriage potential or I passed on them. [/quote]

Same.  [b]And I teach my kids  - the moment you know that the person you are dating is not a marriage material, it's time for you to bow out.[/b]

Actually, my husband was the same.  Early on I apparently said something that made him think I might be childfree.  So, he asked me very pointedly if I am open to having children.  He said that infertility is a different story, but if I do not want to be a mother, we should remain friends.   I appreciated the honesty and directness.  [/quote]

Your kids will do what they want though.[/quote]

But they want what I have, because they see the benefits of a good marriage.  My two oldest are 21 and 23, and are very serious about their current partners.  It may or may not work out, but both the man my daughter is dating and the woman my son is dating are showing a good potential so far.  [/quote]

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