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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being really real with you, given the anonymity  of this board? Marrying well was my #1 focus from the age of 20 or so on. Every relationship, I was thinking about marriage. I dumped any guy who was squishy on marrying young. Also any guy who didn’t share my vision for a successful life (yes, including high paying careers). I didn’t spend my 20s going out. I was neurotic about my “body count” because I was worried about scaring off potential husbands. I picked my grad school program because I thought it would give me the best dating options out of the programs I was admitted to (and I was right). I met my husband in grad school and we were married the day after graduation, both mid-late 20s.

I don’t say this all to be smug. Even though it worked out for me, and I have a great husband, there’s no doubt it came at a cost, and I do feel a little sad my 20s didn’t include more adventure and fun. [/quote]

I wasn't as calculated as this, but yes I never once dated someone without thinking of marriage. I was not looking for a FWB or just a random guy to date and have fun with. Nope, they had to be marriage potential or I passed on them. [/quote]

Same.  [b]And I teach my kids  - the moment you know that the person you are dating is not a marriage material, it's time for you to bow out.[/b]

Actually, my husband was the same.  Early on I apparently said something that made him think I might be childfree.  So, he asked me very pointedly if I am open to having children.  He said that infertility is a different story, but if I do not want to be a mother, we should remain friends.   I appreciated the honesty and directness.  [/quote]

Your kids will do what they want though.[/quote]

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