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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I get what OP is saying. Her own kids do travel sports so it’s not like she doesn’t understand the schedule. It’s more the mentality of the parents acting like everything needs to be built around the sport… like missing a sleepover so they can be rested for a competition. It’s one thing if the kid doesn’t want to go, but it’s another to be all worried as a parent about your athlete child getting less rest for one night. Kids have a lot more energy than we do and we as parents should not be treating their sport like it is their Jo nowhere they need to be in top performing shape at all times. Not should we let coaches convince us that this is vital. They are kids, not college scholarship or pro athletes. Being a little tired at one game isn’t going to derail their “career”. I see parents worrying way too much about these things. Even just the language used, like “oh Larla plays soccer and then just does basketball for fun”. Um, what? It’s all supposed to be for fun, even if it’s a serious travel team. Those kids aren’t being paid to play the sport, you are paying someone else. If they really want to do something fun that might impact their performance temporarily, let it go. Parents here get waaaay too invested. They don’t realize that many of the best athletes with the longest careers have parents who are the opposite. [/quote]

From my perspective... any I do have a D1 athlete, my son loved, loved, loved sports.. it truly is a passion. It wasn't something we pushed or even cared about, something we supported. he would play rain, shine, snow, ice, morning, noon, night, after practice was over, before practice started.

1) it's not that everything is built around a sport, it's just what they love, it's what they want to do. Everything has a pecking order. It's a lesson in life, you will disappoint somebody at some point. You might go to a kids field trip and disappoint your boss, or go to an important dinner for work and disappoint your kid or go on girls weekend and miss a kids event. Life is full of choices.
2) birthday parties are just not that important, they are low on the pecking order.
3) it's not that I never let my kid sleep over it's that I explained the consequences and they probably did a sleepover, stayed up all night, tried to play, played horribly and felt horrible all day. They learned they did not like to disappoint their team and would rather leave the party at midnight before a game. I don't think that falls in the category of "they can't go because they need to be in peak performance". It's that they realize they don't want to go because playing well brings them more joy than staying up all night. If I said, I'm picking Larlo up at midnight, he's not sleeping over, it's because he wanted to and knew his friends wouldn't let him sleep if he wanted. BTDT.

What you don't see is us pulling back the reins instead of pushing because from the outside looking in you can't imagine a kid is wanting this. [/quote]

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