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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I just wanted to clarify a few things.  My daughters go to a small, Catholic school where there is a very small class of 20 kids, all the  moms know each other, and some of us live far (though some of us live nearby).

The playdate invitation was for my older daughter's friends moms, there are several of us who get together sometimes, all of the moms' names were on the text playdate invitation so everyone could see who was invited, this is our usual friend group.  My older daughter has a group of 7 best friends (who all have similar aged siblings).  The text invite was to the moms of these 7 best friends.  I also sent an email with the same playdate invitaton to this same group in case some of them did not see the text.

I did not get any acknowledgment of my invitation, which is really bothering me, and makes me feel rejected.  My daughters have not been invited to any playdates by these moms, and we are always having their kids over.  There has been no reciprocation.  These moms have also not shown any interest in getting to know me.  I was hoping when we switched to this school two years ago, that this is where we would find our community, but that has unfortunately not happened.  We all have the same religion, so I thought we would have a lot in common, but apparently not enough for these moms to want to be friends with me or family friends.  I've tried to put myself out there (trying to organize walks, moms' night out, etc.).  At this point I'm really bummed out by the lack of sense of community at this school.

It's hard because my daughters have no neighborhood friends, no friends from other activities or church, and no local family, so we have a lot of lonely weekends and it's hard to find enough for them to do.  They're both in 5 activities each (after school and on weekends) but that's not enough to fill the lonely weekends and school holidays.  In the summer they do go to summer camp.[/quote]

Your kids see their best friends at school every day, they are music 5 activities each outside of school, they go to summer camp. I would hardly describe this as a lonely existence.  Maybe enroll them in the same after school activities and camps that their school friends are doing.  But I think the healthier thing would be to encourage other friendships besides the ones through school.  It is so much easier to have your child run across the street and play at the neighbor’s house for an hour or two vs the coordination of play dates that require driving across town.

Weekends shouldn’t be lonely at all.  That is time spent playing with siblings, the neighbors, family friends that don’t go to your school, taking day trips.  This is what everyone else is doing on the weekends.  [/quote]

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