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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are going to have to get over your dream schools, OP. She wasn't likely to get in anyway. It was always a long shot.

You don't want to hear this, and probably cannot process it at this stage, but it is far better for her to develop a strong social sense of self, have fun and friendships, and feel in control of her own life than is is to go to any particular college.[b] A happy, confident, smart kid from a middling college will be more successful than a depressed, burned out, resentful kid with no social circle from Harvard.[/b][/quote]

This times a million!  [/quote]

I think this is a false fallacy. Like if you end up depressed, burnt out, resentful, and with no social circle from Harvard, you probably would’ve ended up similar situated from UMD or a liberal arts college. If you’re miserable at an Ivy, you probably would’ve been miserable elsewhere. [/quote]

There was a thread on the career forum a while ago from a college student at Columbia who wanted to leave the school because it made her “depressed, burnt out, resentful, and socially isolated.” But it was very obvious from the post and the comments that this young woman was maladjusted to begin with. Going to a specific college is not going to fix that, whether it’s an Ivy, a state school, or a LAC.

OP, you need to push your kid. Ban electronics and monitor PowerSchool like a hawk until she shows you that she can consistently turn in every single assignment. That’s the bare minimum. [/quote]

DP.  That was not the right takeaway from that post...[/quote]

Then what was? Just from reading that thread (which I think Jeff deleted) it’s obvious that the girl at Columbia would’ve been miserable anywhere. [/quote]

Having your parents push you too hard does tens to make you maladjusted. [/quote]

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