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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think men DID want equal partners, to be involved with children and egalitarian marriages. But it's just really, really hard. There's so much working against dual working parents. 
-school hours are atrocious
-school is basically closed one day a week at least and you need to figure out coverage
-kids are always sick, all winter long
-parenting is extremely hard
-it's very, very difficult to be successful at your job if you left work at 3pm when school ends every day. My boss would have a fit and I'd miss out on lots of meetings.

Dh and I have figured it out and have a nice 40/60 marriage (I'm the 60%), but it's a combo of zero-5 minute commutes, telework, lots of grandparent help, back up nanny and a lot of work.[/quote]

+1 word for word[/quote]

Yup. It is hard to have a marriage with two equal partners that also have full careers. Society isn't set up for it.  Men want an equal partner, but they also want to have  to make any career sacrifices to do that.

We are pretty equal in terms of actual childcare, although still have a pretty gendered split around certain household things, and I'm the one who is always thinking of my kid before myself.  Not to a martyr extent - I do prioritize myself too. But if kid and I are both hunger, she gets the snack first (obviously!!!!) whereas my husband often thinks about his own needs before looking around.  I find that pretty boggling.  [/quote]

If only men got on planes I don’t think they’d have to tell people to put their own oxygen on before helping others. [/quote]

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