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[quote=Anonymous]I think this behavior is really strange and mysterious and I would continue to ask questions to try and understand, since it sounds like you valued this friendship. I'd at least follow up to "lol, yeah." That's vague, it's a non answer. It could be that she just doesn't care but it could also be that she's embarrassed, she's really struggling, she's overwhelmed, she's in trouble, etc.

I think the responses like "she's a pos" or "I'd drop her forever as a friend" are really harsh because this is just "off" behavior. It's not like she gossiped about you behind your back, insulted your kids, hit on your husband, or borrowed a bunch of money and refused to pay you back. She didn't actually DO anything to you. She's just engaged in a weird behavior and total failure of communication that you, and none of us, understand. To me, that merits some follow up to see if she is in crisis or if there is some context you are missing.

Either you really care about her, which means that you should give her the benefit of the doubt at least long enough to find out what is going on, if you can, or you don't really care about her and yours was just a friendship of proximity and convenience. If the attitude is "she's a pos" because she did something really weird and rude ONE time and you never even found out why, then my guess is that this friendship didn't actually mean much to you. If a friend of mine did this, I'd be very hurt and worried and I'd want some kind of explanation.[/quote]

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