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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]this has been eye opening.  like the OP, I work FT and going to coffee is how we socialize at work. you walk down the hall for a break or even (!) leave the office. you then work up to drinks/lunch/texting. it honestly never occurred to me that asking moms to meet up for coffee (in a non-work setting) would be seen as coming on too strong or as a “friendship interview”.  this explains a lot for me.  thanks!  [/quote]

+1 the “getting coffee together” is really, really common at my husband’s job and people definitely don’t need to be BFF’s to do it. But at my job it would be seen as extremely forward and something you’d only do with your close coworkers, or your supervisor taking you out for a treat or to celebrate a project or whatever. FWIW my husband is a fed and I’m private sector.

I think asking them out for coffee right away, one on one, is probably not the right move. It’s not inherently a bad move, but it’s not right in this context. You get peoples hackles up like you’re about to pitch them on Amway or something. What about if, after a PTA volunteer project is done, maybe the upcoming teacher appreciation week, you invite the other volunteers that you’re close to out as a small group for a coffee meet up? Get their phone numbers first so you can start a texting relationship and then send a group text invite to ”relax/celebrate PTA volunteers after a successful TAW.” Or if you guys do Field Day or something else at the end of the year - after that. Maybe start with small group stuff and then pursue more communication with a mom or two that you feel closest to. [/quote]

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