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[quote=Anonymous]From what you describe, OP, you’re not being nearly picky enough.  The process you describe sounds like friend auditions, in that you barely know the women you’re inviting to coffee.  As PPs have said, you do that *after* you’ve taken the time to get to know people at these shared places (PTA, soccer practice, whatever) and sense a real connection.

It may be insecurity, but you describe yourself in such glowing terms it’s also possible that you’re giving off a sense that you’re better than others.  I don’t like my friends because they have interesting careers or are fantastic conversationalists; I like them because they’re warm, empathic, funny, generous, etc.  The fact that you haven’t made friends in any of your various circles suggests it’s something you’re doing.  That’s hard to realize, but it also means it’s something you can change.

I’m a mid-40s mom who makes friends easily and keeps the ones that are the most mutual.  I’ve turned mom friends into real friends, have friends from various jobs through the years, etc.  I’m also picky about my close friends and have high expectations of them - in how they treat me and others.  [/quote]

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