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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every time MIL visits, it’s the same thing. Because our house is centrally located and we have lots of space, we host a lot of holidays, including overnight visitors. DH and I always have the house professionally cleaned, it is nicely decorated, and we stock up on lots of food and beverages. Meals are planned and prepared and get lots of compliments. It is a lot of work.

I can’t stand how MIL fusses over things, gets in the way, messes with our flow and our plans, and offers me things in my own home. *I* set up coffee and am hard at work making breakfast for everyone, and when it’s all set out, she offers it to me as if she has made it. She starts offering people wine and snacks at 3 p.m., when DH and I serve those things at 5 p.m. Then she gets miffed when DH says “No, mom, we’re going to do X and Y at 5 o’clock, and that wine is actually for dinner.” She never sits down and acts like a guest. And no, she doesn’t bring dishes or wine or anything, and doesn’t offer to do anything actually helpful. She basically tries to run our show, but doesn’t actually bring so much as a side dish or an extra bottle of red. I’m so over it. [/quote]

I'd expect drinks and appetizers out and ready when guests arrive.  Do you actually starve your guests and prohibit wine or beer till 5pm?  If so, your MIL is a hero. [/quote]

Definitely. OP sounds stingy AF. Buy more wine if that’s what the people want. Why do you have only enough for dinner?[/quote]

OP here. Because we were serving specific wine with dinner. We had other wine, beer, cocktails and non-alcoholic beverages for cocktail hour. [/quote]

Then she grabbed it bc it was the most easily accessed bottle of wine. Just offer your guests some happy hour wine and stop being a bad hostess. I think you’re just embarrassed she made you look bad but you need to up your game and throw the rigid schedule out the window.[/quote]

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