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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there's unresolved resentment at your parents' early deaths. You're angry at your friends and family for having normal happy moments bc you can't take your anger out on your parents.[/quote]

This is OP here. Your description is accurate. It's unresolved anger and an intense feeling of unfairness to lose not one, but both parents prematurely.

When my mother died, I was the only one of all the cousins in my mother's family who no longer had a mom. After my father died I was the only cousin on both sides of the family who had lost both parents. All my cousins in all the family still had both parents. I felt like the odd one out. Having no siblings didn't help either. The only person I could really talk to was - and still is - my husband.

All these years I've been trying to avoid triggers. I  know what my triggers are. I don't get triggered by everything and everyone, it's just certain people and situations.
I don't think about my parents 24/7.

I function well in other aspects of my life, I think. I have an interesting and fulfilling job I enjoy, a loving husband, a nice house and some hobbies. I try to keep busy to stop my mind wandering.

[b]I may even try therapy, as many of you here have suggested, I just don't know what to expect of it.
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To OP: this is not good enough. you seem to be wallowing in your misery. I understand that what happened to you was unfair and deeply painful but it doesn't seem you've made any real effort to heal. Some previous posters have pointed out you've discussed this issue on different threads in the past. Many have suggested therapy as a way to seek healing and a better sense of well-being but you're saying you may try it? Have you tried it before and it didn't help you? Why do you prefer to continue to bring this up on this board?  Even in this thread you continue to respond to posters by adding various points to your story that highlight your pain. What is your end goal? A good therapist can help you but you have to want to get the help. What you're doing isn't healthy. Raising your issue over and over on this board isn't going to help you unless what you're looking for is sympathy. [/quote]

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