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[quote=Anonymous]Wow!  I was disappointed in my early 40s when docs told me  it was likely too late for me unless I was willing to use donor egg (I wasn't).  We ended up adopting and couldn't be happier.  I am 50 years older than my daughter and already feel this is very unfair to my child.  Plus, not having any siblings for her, I am hoping does not make her feel so very alone.

Your friend will have to come to the realization on her own after talking with doctors.  If you try to tell her, she likely won't accept it. I had a friend get mad at me for suggesting adopting when she was having trouble conceiving.  She was not ready to accept reality and consider other options.

Realistically, adoption or using a surrogate AND donor egg seem the only routes left.  Is her husband also in his 50s?  China used to have age 55 as the age limit (not sure of their rules now.)   Adoption is a wonderful option, but not if one is still grieving having a biological child.  That's not fair then to the child who is adopted.

So, I agree with the others.  Stay out of it, but if she brings the topic up, just be there to listen, to follow her on  her journey, whatever route she decides to take.  [/quote]

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