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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You've already established that it's a mess.  It's your choice to continue to engage in the mess.  There is no obligation to continue to engage in the mess.  You clearly want to engage in the mess.  Go see a counselor for your grief and to learn why you are attracted to and can't pull away from this. [/quote]

Family will situations can indeed be a big mess, but you have a responsibility to your family, and I would say, even to the deceased loved one, to see them through. Sure it would be nice to just walk away and not deal with it, but it’s your family. Sadly, sometimes even more so when it’s a mess because someone needs to make sure things are done correctly.

My cousin was in a situation where the sibling executor of their parents estate was essentially playing fast and loose with stock holdings from the estate. Thousands of dollars worth of stock simply disappeared from one spreadsheet to the next. It turns out, the executor forgot she had sent the earlier spreadsheet and had sold a few hundred shares of stock and simply taken that money for herself, thinking no one would know the difference. When the other siblings started asking questions, she shut down and told them that she didn’t have to tell them anything. And that’s when the lawyers got involved.

Things didn’t go well for the executor after that. It would have been wrong for the other siblings to walk away from that “mess” and allow the executor to get away with stealing. 
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In OP's situation however, there looks to be almost nothing to be gained monetarily.  No car, a few thousand in life insurance, a few thousand $ worth of land.   It makes much more sense to just step away.  Yes, support the grieving and seek support for your own grief.  But step away from the probate process.  Just not worth it.  [/quote]

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