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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup. Treating 21+ as teens helps them feel like a young family. One friend bought their 22 year old a trip to Disneyland for his college graduation but not with his friends or girlfriend, parents themselves going with him like its a middle school graduation trip. Their son said no thank you, I don't need a graduation gift. [/quote]

My friend goes to Europe after graduation with each child.

You think that’s infantile?[/quote]

Disney trip with parents as a college graduation gift IS infantile. Ask any graduate and they would appreciate a fixed amount of money to go pick a destination and take your BF/GF or friends with you.[/quote]

You’re assuming every 22-year old has a group of college best friends.[/quote]

And what is wrong with a normal 22 yo wanting to do trips with family and also do trips with their friends.  I didn't raise my kid so they disappear after college and only come home for 1-2 days at xmas holidays.  We still do family vacations around everyone's schedule(s).  My kids also do their own thing with their friends and their significant others [/quote]

Especially in their 20’s actually since once marriage and kids come it’s more complicated.[/quote]

Yes--my recent college grad loves to come along and actively plans their time off.  They certainly can't afford Europe or Hawaii vacations like we take.  They know they can say no and there are no issues.  But they are still our kid, part of our family and the siblings like to have them come along on vacations (well, most of the time). We realize as they get older, have serious Significant others and more friends in their area, they may say no more often we are fine with it---but it would seem strange to go and not at least offer to take them if it fits their work schedule.

Heck my 2 year out grad will still try to come home for the "long weekends" their siblings have from college (siblings are a distance from home as is the college grad) or plan work trips in our area around the weekends so they can stay.

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