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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There were about 160 sisters in my sorority over 20 years ago. Looking back, while some of the prettiest classic beauty sisters married well, frankly, many of them did not. They frequently complain about finances, many are on second marriages, and some are single divorcees dating much older men. A handful never married and have no children – they seem to have successful careers. With the benefit of hindsight, who seems to have married the best? As crazy as this probably sounds, I double-checked this on Facebook last night and literally all of my sisters who went to ritzy private day schools and boarding schools married well. Literally 100%. All of them are married to either successful MDs, law partners, business executives, or entrepreneurs. No divorces. All of them have children. They live in elegant homes, especially for our age range, in premier neighborhoods. And for the sake of total honestly, these sisters were and are largely average appearance-wise. I am not saying that to be cruel or out of jealously, I was also average if not below average for our chapter, and I went to public school.

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[b]Yes, their families had enough money to send them to private schools and boarding schools, and their potential boyfriends were interested in women with family money or a certain background. Doesn't apply if you are a scholarship or financial aid student at those schools though, or if your parents pay full tuition and have to sacrifice to do so. 
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A story: I attended a private school but my family scrimped and saved to send me there and it was obvious; never was able to date anyone at my private school, the guys just weren't interested, even though we were friends so I assumed I was not attractive to them or too shy and studious.  Attended a decent college on scholarship, lost contact, and then was accepted to a masters degree program at a much more prestigious university, of which my female private school friends were aware.

*One month* after attending the name brand U, I was getting contacted by all three guys I had crushes on in high school. Went out once with two, and it became apparent that *prestigious U* was the reason I was now considered dateable, and took precedence over my more humble family origins. By that point, I had no interest in either of these guys.  I have been happily married to my dh for 20 years and he is also from lower middle class family, successful, and we met at work.

OP, many guys are in this for the money or prestige (or their parents want them to be) and it doesn't matter so much how pretty you are, sometimes your background matters more to certain people.

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Hi, thanks for sharing this. I'm OP. I just want to be clear that I don't think our college was prestigious. I hope I didn't inadvertently give that impression anywhere in the thread. As an example, are Sidwell, NCS and Potomac School more or less prestigious than the University of Maryland? I think the private k-12s are more prestigious.[/quote]

I'm the pp and that wasn't my point, my point was that the boys I went to private K-12 with wouldn't date me because my parents didn't have enough money and had to sacrifice for me to be in private school. Going private isn't enough, you also have to have to right family background and family money and private school / boarding school can be an indication of that money..

Once I was on the road to making more money myself (attending prestigious name brand university) the exact same boys who wouldn't consider dating me back when we went to the same private school five years earlier came flocking out of the woodwork to ask me out for the first time. I wasn't really interested by then.

It doesn't help eventual dating prospects to go to a private k-12 unless you already have family money or the right family background. Then it helps, but it's the family money or family education that helps, not the private school. [/quote]

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