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[quote=Anonymous]His college experience sounds almost exactly like mine.

I have wonderful parents, but they kinda manipulated us into living at home through college. They said that, wherever we go, they would pay the equivalent of the (very inexpensive) tuition at our hometown college and that would be it. Plus they offered us no help in looking into other schools or housing. This was early 90s so much more difficult to do without parents’ help, and we really had no way of knowing what else was out there. My senior year, I couldn’t take it anymore and got an apartment with a friend. Again, no help or guidance from parents. I couldn’t manage money, got in over my head, got in cc debt, and moved back home. The cc debt piled up and took years to get out of it. Not to mention that I really didn't make a lot of friends in college since I was really just on campus for classes. I moved out of town as soon as I graduated. I managed, but I always felt like I missed out on that transition to adulthood, especially now that I have my own college kids and see how that gradual transition should be, such as - home, dorms, off-campus student housing, apt/house with roommates, studio apt, etc. I love my parents and grateful that they paid for my college, but I really missed out on a real college experience.

So, my advice is to do whatever you can to get him out of the house for the rest of college if at all possible! Maybe he can live on/near campus and get rid of his car so that money could go toward housing?

I have been there. He feels like he is in his 7th year of high school. But he also knows he is fortunate to get free housing and tuition, so he feels guilty complaining. [/quote]

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