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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are they poor, though?  Can you all afford nicer vacations and they cannot?  [/quote]

100% irrelevant. [/quote]

This may not be determinative, but it's certainly relevant and what's up with you for thinking it's not?  If someone doesn't have funds but could contribute in other ways -- like cooking all the meals or doing all the babysitting or certain excursions with the kids, etc -- that's certainly relevant to making the vacation a great trip after all.

This is time your kids are spending with their extended family and if the family is actually having a really great time together and creating memories that will be treasured forever down the road, and maybe cementing relationships that will last into adulthood, I'd be loathe to blow that up if the money wasn't really that important to me.  That said, I see that you are also really missing out on getting your own family time together during this vacation and that it's basically being taken over by your husband's family while I suspect you personally are doing most of the work like cooking etc., which totally isn't fair.

Is the family (including your kids) really enjoying this time together or is it mostly the in laws who are enjoying freeloading off of you?  And are they significantly poorer than you, or at roughly the same wealth level?  If your kids are having a super great time but the wealth levels are vastly different, I'd consider proposing that you guys absorb the cost of the house (maybe with a room for your kids) rental but make it clear that the in laws are in charge of all food for the whole house, and the cooking of all meals, and see if the in laws still want to come under those conditions.  jmho.

I grew up usually being poorer than the people I was vacationing with, but learned early to always offer to help out in ways I could -- cooking, doing dishes, etc -- and I always felt I was a welcome guest.[/quote]

Just because you have less money doesn’t mean you get to horn in on someone else’s vacation. [/quote]

So if OP makes millions of dollars and rest of family is dirt poor and kids are enjoying this time together like no other vacation they've ever had, that makes no difference if in laws can't pony up an equal amount of money for let's say some luxury beachfront house that OP can afford but no one else can?  And OP gets the first week of the beachfront property completely to themselves with no one else in the house?

Wow, all y'all's families are way different than mine.  Mine is more of a "from each according to his ability, to each according to his needs" situation.  But yeah I'm not surprised.[/quote]

If you want to spend your hard earned vacation time and money cramming your family of four into a single bedroom so that your extended family can mooch off of you, taking over the rest of the house you paid for and not even offering to pay for a meal then have at it. My family of origin has a similar philosophy and would do the same if left unchecked but I have put boundaries in place and am much happier for it.[/quote]

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