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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, there is a husband and wife in my neighborhood who are extreme with the gate keeping/social engineering. The husband decides which men can all hang out and the wife with women. They are incredibly manipulative with their subtle put downs and exclusionary actions. If someone moves to the neighborhood and they don’t think they’re acceptable for their clique, the husband usually starts to spread subtle rumors about the new family’s husband while the wife will say something more like that the kids were mean or bullying. If she notices that one person has made a new friend, she will become the new friends best friend in order to ensure she remains in control of social interactions. Same thing if they decide a family is out of the clique. Cutting people out of group text messages, etc, back stabbing, victim playing, and down right lies. It’s sad because one family is making a neighborhood toxic for people with young elementary children since they control the neighborhood social scene with an iron fist. It’s been going on for years and no one will stand up to them because anyone who tries is branded a bully and their children excluded. [/quote]
Wait is this real? It sounds like a TV drama. And why don’t people call them out? How are the neighbors who go along any better?[/quote]

It is real. People don’t call them out to avoid their family being ostracized. Ask me how I know. And the neighbors who go along are no better. They’re just as bad. But it is gatekeeping and social engineering at its finest. [/quote]
Is this a very high SES area? Like I can’t imagine anyone around my neighborhood doing this kind of crap.  [/quote]

Yes, it’s in Fairfax County. It is something I’d never imagine either because it’s so many DCUM clichés, but these people are real. It’s two deeply toxic people married to each other who bring out the worst in each other. Usually a loud, obnoxious, one-upper, BSer will have a spouse who is nice and normal and balances him out. Or the Uber competitive queen-bee wife has a laid back husband. These are two of them married to each other. [/quote]

Wait! I thought this was my neighborhood in MOCO! These people pride themselves on being multigenerational but they’re really kind of insular and provincial.
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