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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Too bad everyone jumped on your use of the word loser.

I'd like to hear actual advice.

- not OP[/quote]

I’ll try.  I’m raising a kid who isn’t interested in school and doesn’t care if he passes or fails.  He’s not motivated or pushed by consequences and will dig in further.  He hasn’t applied for any jobs and does minimal things around the house.

We constantly try not to engage him in power struggles that will make things worse.  Sometimes we let him fail because we have no choice since we can’t make him do the work but it’s also a good lesson.

My husband and I get angry and we fight a lot since this causes a lot of stress even though we agree on most things.  We are still saving for college and will help him with undergrad, even if he decides to go at 25.

We try to find anything he’s interested in and support him in that.   Right now he occasionally brings up various vocational training or the military. We remind him he at least needs to get a GED and either of those would be good ideas. [/quote]

Where's your line in the sand?

At what point do you plan on no longer enabling him to live off of you and your DH scotfree?[/quote]

When he graduates high school he needs to enroll in college(community college is fine), vocational school, join the military or get a full time job.   We have been clear that he can’t stay and do nothing.   He hasn’t failed a class yet but squeaked by with some Ds.   He will end up graduating since it’s less work than a GED.  We have been very clear on our expectations.  [/quote]

Vocational Technology High School.

These used to be commonplace.

Why, oh WHY did educators in the US largely get rid of these high schools??

Was it the leftist crusade against “educational tracking??”  [/quote]

They still are plentiful. Most UMC parents are too embarrassed for their kids to go to one.[/quote]

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