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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The younger the better. Any time between about 7 and 25 is bad. Middle school or close to it (ages 10 to 15) is a total disaster and you are risking severe psychological consequences[/quote]

research please?

[b]it is MUCH more common to hear adults say they wished their parents had not stayed togethe[/b], than that they wish they had not divorced. [/quote]

But they don’t have the opposite situation to compare it to. They may think they wish their parents divorced, but how do they really know what it’s like?

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+1. I remember being a teen and briefly wishing my parents would divorce (because that’s what everybody else said). I was just a kid, what did I know? Now that I have an adult’s understanding and can see things with a view to the long-term, it was clearly just a phase in their midlife marriage and I am so so so glad they stayed together and have each other in old age.

It’s not some static thing that never changes, complex feelings can emerge over time and with maturity. Coping mechanisms are real, too. It’s not like the kid was involved in making an informed choice, the adults made the decision for them and they had to deal with it.[/quote]

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