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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, this is OP.

I'll talk to my dad tonight. The HS is working out of our guest room (teaches some online classes), literally says only "hi" and "thank you" to me, comes out to eat, I welcome adults to serve themselves (eg. there is chicken in the oven, please help yourselves), she asks dad to serve her, stares at her phone the entire dinner, dad said she is interested in going to the caps game with us (it would be fun for her to watch the game)... I was nice and friendly the first few day (great to see you, how have you been, how was your flight, here are clean towels, let me know if you need anything, you are welcome to anything in the fridge, here are some nice teas, join us for a board game...). She literally has not said anything to me along the lines of "good to see you" or "thanks for hosting me" or "how are you?" Yesterday, I said that I'd appreciate some help with meal prep if she is free, she was not. Later at dinner, I said that we love when our guests cook something for us; we always appreciate it. She said, oh, she is going to a museum today and will be late.

Dad, unprompted, mentioned that she's had an argument with her husband, and her U.S. plans fell through too, so she is in a bad mood...

My reaction to this after three days is: I truly sympathize and wish HS every blessing, and have hosted her and been warm and friendly for three days, I feel like I am just being used at this point.  I'll talk to dad today to ask to come up with a plan for her; she can go home, she can find another accommodation, my house is not a hotel, restaurant or a "we work" space for people whose plans fall through and who can't even be bothered to be a good guest and offer to help and/or feign interest in hosts... I'll phrase it better though. [/quote]

Honest question -- why are you talking to your dad at this point instead of your half-sister? It seems -- at least to me -- that she has relied on your dad to run interference for her (asking if she can stay, breaking the news that it will be for more than a few days) and that is a good portion of the problem.  What would happen if she hears from you, directly, that she needs a new plan?[/quote]

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