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[quote=Anonymous]Depends if the marriage is ending as a result or not. If you are going to stay together, probably don’t tell them.  If you are divorcing, the kids need to know age appropriate truths about why their lives are imploding.  Age appropriate and truthful are both key here.  Kids that don’t know about sex shouldn’t be talking about adultery on the part of one of their parents as their first foray into talking about sex.  Way too complex.  Just keep it simple for little ones, that marriage requires two people to make certain vows and promises to each other, and when one person decides they don’t want to keep those vows or promises, the marriage has to end. Period, full stop.

Older kids can know the truth… keep is simple and don’t allow yourself to be sucked in to bad mouthing the cheater. Simply state that your spouse had an affair, and that means the marriage is over. Remind them that it’s ok for them to still love that parent, that sometimes good people make bad decisions, but that as far as the marriage goes, it has to end. [/quote]

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