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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I decided that we want to wait 1-2 months after baby is born (next month) for visitors.  His parents are being very pushy about wanting to see the baby very quickly after birth.  How do we hold the boundary without creating a rift?  In his family it’s very common for everyone to be in the hospital etc.  I’m just annoyed at our wishes not being respected.[/quote]

Being so far along and starting to lose control of everything that's happening is really hard to deal with right now. Don't make any promises and ask them to be flexible. We often (at least two births) told2 people after the baby was home. Might sound messed up, but you don't know my dad. He'd be right there trying to pull the baby out and taking the baby home. For now, don't even let it get you upset. Just focus on the birth of your baby and you can figure out the rest later when you're up to dealing with your family.[/quote]

We told people about our babies births after we got home too. The only person who knew was the person watching our dog (and then later, dog and older children). Our parents visited two weeks after we got home and did things like ask why we hadn't folded clean laundry, watered the yard, cleaned the kitchen. My MIL told me "In my day, nobody could even tell I'd given birth after I got home from the hospital - I did everything, in heels and with a smile and lipstick." I stared at her and just said "Then I guess you're a better person than me. You win." They asked about every meal and complained about them. We're just heating up soup. was met with "But what about us? Who's going to do the table?"  My MIL was FaceTiming with a friend and went into the nursery to show her the baby, sleeping and talked so loudly she woke the baby up. Some people are just not helpful, and in fact, create more work.[/quote]

This is exactly how my MIL is too unfortunately. Maybe its the lead poisoning.[/quote]

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