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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - what responses!  I think asking 1-2 months is not unreasonable, given the massive adjustment we’ll be going through.  The rules apply across the board.  And for everyone saying “have a heart, let them come at 2-3 weeks” - a month is four weeks.  Is it really that big of a difference?

I’ve read several articles advocating waiting at least a month before allowing strangers around. I’m not interested in being immediately post-partum, bleeding, leaking milk/breastfeeding etc with my in-laws around.  At least not until I get the hang of it.  Is this really cruel, ridiculous, and selfish?  I just don’t get these responses.[/quote]

It’s not unreasonable at all! Your pediatrician will be relieved. Your baby’s health will be protected. You get a chance to recover before you have to host guests. It’s a no brainer!

The boomer brigade is jumping on you. Hold fast on the boundary. Our first was a preemie during the winter RSV season and we said no visitors for the first three months per the NICU recommendations. SIL pitched a fit, grandparents were less upset but that was only because they don’t like traveling in the winter where there could snow and ice. They all got over it and DD never noticed that they didn’t visit during the first three months.

Your in laws are excited but they will likely be embarrassed that they can’t show a picture of themselves with your hours old newborn. One of their catty friends who bulldozed into her child’s delivery will show them hers. But guess what, they are adults and can deal with it. [/quote]

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