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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean what's the end goal here OP? If it's to have a better relationship with your daughter then you BOTH need to put in the time/work. She's still a child. Her brain is still developing. Just because therapy didn't work before doesn't mean it wouldn't now. You both should be seeing therapists separately, then together once you're in the right frame of mind.

If you're "done" with the relationship then sure, shipping her off to a relative or boarding school would work. That is going to mess her up further though. [/quote]

She was just in therapy this school year.  Again.  Went nowhere.  We tried a few therapists, got neuropsych testing, it's just not moving the needle.  At all.  She was just screaming at me for hanging up her laundry.  There's nothing I can do to avoid her rage.  It's almost Every.Single.Interaction.  To be more specific, these are times screams at me every day:

- Wake up

- Getting to school

- Sitting down to dinner - She demands eating alone in dining room.  We must wait for her to finish eating before we can eat.  We sound too annoying chewing and any talking is too irritating to her.  Frankly, I'm tired of trying to eat while being screamed at the entire time.  That's dinner time here every single day.

- If I need to put laundry in her room or ever enter

- Time to bathe before bed

- Bed time.

It's most of our interaction - her screaming at me.  I'm trying to think of a type of interaction where she doesn't scream at me. . I guess when I put her food on the table and patiently wait for her to finish her meal so I can enter, or sometimes if we go to a store she really likes.  For a long time, I couldn't take her to restaurants or parties because it was too embarrassing her screaming - and physically attacking me - in front of other parents.  If I could afford boarding school, her bags would be packed yesterday.  [/quote]

If you're OP, and you seem to be, why are you ignoring what SO MANY here have told you, which is that the first step in improving this situation with your DD is YOU getting therapy? Because until YOU understand what is likely going on, nothing you try is going to help the situation or her.  And if you try to wash your hands of her and send her away, you will have truly failed her as a parent.

Why do you not comment at all on the most common advice you got here, which is start with YOU and therapy?[/quote]

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