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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your bf is afraid you will cheat on him because what happens in Japan stays in Japan.  I have no idea why any guy would actually want to be the third wheel on a trip with his gf and her sister though.  That would be like nails scratching a blackboard to any normal male.[/quote]

While I agree that cheating is the concern, it is not cheating in a physical sense, but, rather, cheating in an emotional sense that concerns the boyfriend. Cheating on the relationship, not necessarily cheating on him.[/quote]

DP, not the OP, but -- the two posters suddenly bringing up "it sounds like he's afraid you will cheat" on the trip--wow. He didn't tell OP that, per her first post, so where are you getting this idea? Possibly projecting from something in your own experience? Because you're interpreting cheating concerns into a post where OP didn't bring that up as something he raised. Why did your minds even go there?

Even if he IS concerned about cheating, well, he's nuts. They're supposedly still in the "honeymoon phase" when things should be positive and happy, but if he can't bear the thought of her taking a mere two-week trip without him and HE thinks that means she'll cheat--then he's as possessive and immature as many of us here think he is, with a huge dose of mistrust into the bargain. He should be pleased for her. Period.

And to PP above talking about [i]"cheating on the relationship, not necessarily cheating on him,"[/i] what on Earth do you mean? That if she takes a trip without him at this stage, she is...not putting "the relationship" ahead of everything else in her life, and that's a form of cheating?

Utter nonsense. That's A-1, top grade possessive talk. That's essentially, "If you do this without me or without my approval, you're not fully invested in the relationship like I am." Are you the same person who posted earlier that OP must not be that into him and might be "meant" to be alone all her life? That was a peach of a post too.

I hope that is not what you really meant -- but that sure is how it reads. [/quote]

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