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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is correct, she is 18 and can do what she wants, legally.  You are treating her as if she is still a minor because she's still in HS.  Sit down with her and discuss how you can compromise moving forward.  I suggest treating her as you would another adult who was living with you.  You would not impose a curfew or assign chores.  You might, however, expect them to treat you with common adult courtesy such as informing you when they might be home late or be out of town, helping out in whatever ways you agree on such as dishes, emptying trash, picking up groceries.  Her room should be off limits to you and no requirement that she clean it.  Try to transition to an adult-adult child relationship now because she clearly craves it.  Pay for what you want to pay for, allow her to keep the car if you want to.  Expect her to treat you with  kindness, respect and courtesy but don't expect her to follow rules as if she were still a child.  That's a losing proposition.[/quote]

Not OP, but adults living in my home would be expected to contribute towards the running and upkeep of the household, i.e. chores.  If the adult decided they didn't want to do anything, they would not be able to stay in my home.  [/quote]
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An adult living in my home would be expected to contribute to the household regularly, not just when they felt like it or when it directly benefited them or only the chores they liked.  Maybe no curfew, but that would on the condition that (1) we know where you went and (2) you don't wake anyone up when you come home.  That's just basic consideration.  [/quote]

OP has already lost this battle.

The kid is now an adult.

We are missing something here. No kid leaves this close to graduation unless something is really wrong. 
The whole chore fight is stupid. OP failed way before this.[/quote]

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