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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d tell my parents to deal. If they want a solo weekend, they come at a time that’s not Christmas.  [/quote]

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OP is going to visit her parents. It’s not usual to bring your in-laws along on a trip like that.[/quote]

Op and we didn’t bring them - they just… came too. They said it was on their way to their vacation which I guess it was - but they arranged their whole vacation to ‘coincide’. 
I just don’t know who is right in this scenario so hard to know how to deal [/quote]

It's not OK to invite yourself along on someone else's holiday.  So IL's are wrong and are putting you and your parents in a difficult position.

I'd do a combo of things suggested on this thread.  Go celebrate Christmas a week before, or after.  Avoid telling them your exact dates.  Be explicit "we are not inviting anyone along this year".  If they show up, do not engage.  Or send just your DH to see them and tell them "this isn't appropriate".

Just as the ILs sometimes get time alone with you and your family, your parents deserve that too.[/quote]

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