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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have other children?  If so, what is your relationship with them?

There are so many things that could be happening here. We can’t tell you what is wrong.

I’d start by calling your pediatrician and getting a referral for a family therapist.  Then make and appointment. A good one will not have an opening for a while so go ahead and get on the list.  Also get a referral for a child psychologist and get on that waitlist.

Your child might have some sort of personality disorder or you might or neither. We don’t know.

Until you get into therapy try to do one fun activity a week with your daughter- just the two of you. Something you both will like. Like a movie, bowling, ice skating. Something fun. Try not to talk about too much other than the activity you are doing.

Did anything happen when she was two? Did you have another child? Move? Go back to work?[/quote]

I think this is great advice, this and most of the advice on this last page of the convo.  I hope OP sees it and takes as much of it seriously as she can.

Just on the last question you ask though, if something happened at 2 yrs old, it's a good question to ask, but the incredibly likely answer is simply that "toddlerhood happened at 2 yrs old".  Babies aren't necessarily easy, but many child development experts say that if you had to pick the 2 most determinative years in a child's life in terms of development, i.e. the 2 yrs that - whether things go well or badly, will have the most influence on WHO that child grows to be - it's years 0-2.  2 yrs old is where their personality starts to REALLY present, even though it's still very much in development.  But it's also the years where a parent who is either struggling, overwhelmed, mentally not well themself, or a zillion other issues, it's where they may grow to not like their child or start blaming their child for being difficult or evil, when 2 yrs old is literally the first age they can talk to a degree, and SOUND like htey are fully in command of their actions and choices, but they are so NOT truly in control.  It's called "The Terrible Twos" for a reason.  When I worked in child welfare, the age that most of the child deaths happened I'm sorry to say, is 2-3 yrs old.  So given OP's very blaming (on her DD) language and so far total silence on exploring what responsibility she or her DH might play in why DD is acting as she is, I'd say what happened at 2 is simply that whatever happened between 0-2 started to really manifest.[/quote]

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