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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is dealing with a bully right now. We are doing everything we can, but they keep getting away with it.

Do you think at some point the chronic "mean kids" get what they deserve? Or are they living a consequence-free existence?
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You have to be a miserable s.o.b. to bully people. They already have their comeuppance. [/quote]

I don’t think so. This is what people always say, oh, the bully probably has some issues in their own lives. I have seen that in really serious bullies. But run of the mill mean girls and guys? Those kids seem to come from families that raise them to be entitled and get their way, no matter what that means for other people.[/quote]

This is my experience, too. Like I can tell the difference between a kid (or adult) who is just lashing out because of their own challenges, taking it out in people, and someone who just dies not care about others or believes their needs are more important.

Like one dead give away is if the person will express remorse or take responsibility if they are called out on it. People from screwed up backgrounds will often apologize quickly, they often are more critical of themselves gif their bad behavior than anyone because they have low self esteem.

But the worst bullies I’ve seen never admit fault. They always have a justification or explanation for their behavior, often one that blames the victim of their bullying. Even if they can be coerced into apologizing, they will make clear that they are just saying their lines. They truly do not care that their actions hurt someone else. And in the cases where I’ve known how someone like this grew up, and what their relationship with parents is, a common thread is that their parents did not hold them accountable at home, they were the favorite and/or their needs were given preference in the family. Sometimes there’s a history of bullying a sibling, but it won’t be seen as bullying in the family— that sibling will be blamed for being annoying or not appreciative enough.

The worst bullies are the ones who were raised to believe they matter more than other people. Look at sociopaths in the public eye, many of them have this background— families who told them “we are better than other people.” It’s messed up and these people are scary.[/quote]

One of these people was recently our president.[/quote]

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