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[quote=Ihatedumbsoccerparents][quote=soccer_dc][quote=Pepe]If you don't wanna win or go to college, fine. But lots do. They are coaching kids and as long as they aren't derogatory, they are fine to yell all day. These are simple coaches who have bad days, good days, relationship troubles, and have favorites. You also don't know how your kid isn't listening or paying attention to drills... maybe they aren't all you think they are.
All the coaches do their best and while you want more, you have what you have. Don't like ECNL competitiveness? Go play rec.
You really want them to "care"? Care how? Stop watching movies and expecting some Coach Carter bs. Never seen such beta crybaby attitude. You clearly never played sports growing up.[/quote]

That’s a pretty outdated attitude. Just because it’s always been that way doesn’t mean it’s right. We can do better for our kids. It is possible to be ultra competitive and demand excellence without crossing into verbal abuse. Plenty of examples of good coaches like this in sports.

It’s not easy to change attitudes but it does happen over time. It used to be acceptable for teachers to hit kids in schools. Most of society in this country decided they didn’t want that anymore. There will always be some who don’t like change, especially those who were at the top and feel threatened.[/quote]

I must confess I come from the yelling coach generation. I recently removed my daughter from a club that had what I thought was a very good coach that yelled during games and sometimes at practice. My kid is very good and I thought this was pushing her to do well. It had the opposite effect. Although it did not bother my child when coach yelled at her, she would get upset when coach would yell at her friends and they got upset.

Fast forward 6 months, we are now on a new club. This coach is soft spoken but respectful all the girls seem to love his coaching style and they all play hard. It took me a minute to realize how important the relationship is between my DD and coach need to be great. Not the relationship between me and coach.

I used to believe in yelling and pushing the kids to their limits, I now believe getting these girls to pull together as a team and work hard for one another because they love the sport and want to preform for themselves creates a much healthier competitive environment…..my soap box speech…to each their own[/quote]

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