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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you're facing a family situation that hurts and I can see how that is creating a a negative cloud, but shake yourself out of it a bit.  I moved to an entirely new city with a 1 and 3yo during peak covid with no family in sight (so no community, not even a friend closer than a 4 hour flight away and no easy way to make them since people weren't easily socializing).  Its tough but not at all a unique situation and you chip away at it building one friend at a time.

Put yourself in the mindset of you came to the city and need to start building a community instead of your old community failed you and its impossible.  Chat up people at the play ground, find a hobby (mine is jogging), and join a group for that, aggressively invite day care families over for playdates even if 75% decline, talk to neighbors, shamelessly give out casual invites to easy things (meet at the park, join for a walk, come share takeout for dinner with the babies, go to a library storytime on the weekend, come kill an hour at your house playing before dinner) and you'll turn up the other people also looking to build community.

I'm about 2 years in now and would say I now have ~10 families we get together with regularly and ~4 of those have before fairly close friends.

Your situation sucks but isn't at all unique (i don't mean that meanly, just to give you perspective almost everybody faces this situation) so just get moving on building what you want[/quote]

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