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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Np here. Here’s the f*cked up thing about the family court system - you can’t count on it to do the right thing for your kids. Judges are human, they see a few hours of evidence (and people lie), and then make a decision you have to live with for years.

DH’s experience with the family court system was that it rewarded his ex, who lied and exaggerated. Looking back, it was naive to think that te judge would be able to understand the family dynamics in a couple of hours (samdwiched in between numerous other cases that judge is also following) and make a good decision for the child.

Judges do blame the parents that they couldn’t work it out themselves and are in court - DH’s judge just flat came out and said that. DH’s attorney told him the only cases which go to trial over custody have at least one parent who is unreasonable/awful, since reasonable people do work it out. You have to ask yourself (because judges probably think the same thing): are you the unreasonable/awful parent?

Try to find a way to work out a compromise with your ex, even if it’s something you don’t love - you could get something really shitty from the judge, and after a trial your ex won’t want to work with you to modify it, whereas you can revisit something your compromised on every couple of years. [/quote]

You'll be lucky if you get a few hours.  More likely closer to an hour.

Agree on most of the rest though.[/quote]

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