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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The good news is that you are young, and still have plenty of time to make long lasting friends. I didn’t have any lasting friends from college or childhood, but made several friends in my 20s and 30s that I’ve now been friends with for 10-15 years (I’m now in my 40s).

One key is finding “your people” and living in a neighborhood and city where folks you feel connected to are abundant. If you tell us a bit about your interests maybe we could help you find such a spot in the DC area. Then I’d say live in a setting that has built in social interactions, such as a group house, shared apartment, or even a building where you have your own place but there are other young people like you. And then as everyone else has said, seek out meet ups and what not based on your interests.

Your job sounds like it’s not doing you any favors. I would try to find a job that’s more 9-5 though you might have to take a pay cut. [/quote]

Sure. I have to live somewhere relatively close to downtown — I take the Metro to my office and since I come home around ~11 PM every night, it can’t be too far away from where I work (my company pays for my Ubers back home after 8 PM).

OP here. Thanks for offering. My interests are in the arts (visual and performing), activism, nature, screenwriting/film, really anything creative/granola/crunchy. I think DC tends to lean more formal — maybe I should request an office transfer to LA? Not sure, hahaha.

Yes, I realize that doesn’t exactly scream “management consultant” — probably why I’m having a hard time fitting into my workplace. Definitely NOT a fan of the work hard/play hard/fratty vibe, I prefer a much more laid-back/low-key area (I’m sure there are neighborhoods like this in DC, not sure where).

I would love to leave my job. Definitely not happening anytime soon though. [/quote]

Hey OP, I’m the person you replied to here. I have similar artsy interests and when I was in my 20s and 30s (in the 2000s and 2010s) people “like me” tended to congregate in Mt Pleasant, Columbia Heights, Petworth, and I had a very tight network in these neighborhoods. Now in my 40s, I’m not sure where the young artsy people hang out. Maybe along the red line along the MBT (like Eckington, Edgewood, Brookland)? Maybe still along the green line, like in Park View or Petworth? Your people are here, you just have to find them. I’d suggest signing up for event newsletters like 730DC to find some artsy events to attend and see where people live. If you’re into experimental and DIY music I’d suggest Rhizome DC and Hamlin St diner — but again, I’m on the older side for this stuff so tap your networks for the underground artsy events among young people.

Id missed earlier the note about your job. Understood — you have to do what you have to do. Though another way we could help you on here is if you post your minimum salary requirements we might be able to brainstorm about more 9-5 jobs that might be suitable once you’re ready to take a leap.[/quote]

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