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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August.  It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are. [/quote]
You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right?  And spring break?   Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.[/quote]

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids? [/quote]
No one really cares what your parenting choices are.[b] This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.[/b]

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own.  For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what.  Three months difference.[/quote]

I’ve posted my opinion and you’ve posted yours. OP asked for feedback, and we’ve given it.  But you seem hell bent on convincing me that my opinion is wrong. I didn’t anyone for feedback. That’s what OP did. Again, not sure why you’re so invested in arguing with those that don’t have the same opinion as you about Beach Week.

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I'm not trying to convince you to send them. I really don't care.  I'm just telling you that in 3 months, your kid will be off to college and could easily have beach week then without you knowing.

I'm confused as to why some parents put such a tight leash on their seniors when in a few months time they will be off to college on their own.  The tighter your leash in HS the more likely they are to go nuts when they are finally free from your leash.

Just a thought.[/quote]
I’m sure you can appreciate that there are varying degrees of tightening the leash and letting it go. I have two in college and one in high school. They’re all great kids, doing well and have made mistakes along the way. They’ve done and will continue to do their fair share of partying. I’m sure there are some parents that would look at how I’ve let my kids move all around DC on their own at night and think that I’m completely irresponsible and that the leash is too loose. Others have no issue with it.

Again, everyone makes the decision that is best for their family at the time. Maybe OP will have a different outlook in a few months and maybe she’ll still feel the same. We’re all just trying to do our best.  
Peace. [/quote]
Of course. Every parent does what they think is best. But, I know some parents who have a very tight leash on their HS senior kids. And it baffles me why they have such a tight leash when in a few months time they are going away to college. A few of the kids want to go as far away as possible and not come home on breaks because they just want to get away from their parents.

I'm not permissive, believe me.  But, there is a wide range between a tight leash and being overly permissive.

Beach week of course will be full of kids partying.  yes, there will be drugs, alcohol, etc.. But most of these kids who have not been on a tight leash have been exposed to these temptations before beach week, and they will be tempted at college.   IMO, it's better to let them learn their limits while still here than when they are gone to college.

I will worry. I'm a worry wort.  I'll probably make DC text me every night to make sure they are coherent.  And if they don't I will go there and bring  them back home. That's the deal.

DC has been responsible and trustworthy. Great grades.  If I didn't trust DC, I wouldn't let them go. But, DC knows if they screw up, it's their future. I can only hope that I have drilled this into DC enough.  I gave DC a stocking stuffer that says -- "Don't do stupid sh1t. Love mom".  DC has it on their keychain.[/quote]

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