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He was asked to interview for a position in his company that, according to him, is a 6 month trial with no pay raise, but it puts him in front of people like the CEO, and gives him management experience. It is VERY demanding, will have zero flexibility on scheduling, and will require travel. In his words, it could either make or break his career - if he does well, it could lead to a permanent position with a very significant pay raise, or if he does poorly, he will basically be stuck in his current role permanently.

I was blunt and told him that his time management sucks, he is lazy[/quote]

There is a very obvious contradiction here. He would not even be considered for such a position if his time management sucks and he is lazy.

This just sounds like the standard DW whine that DH is not doing everything she wants exactly as she wants it done and (stamps foot) this means he is a good-for-nothing man-baby. Whatever. Go ahead and blow up your family because there are some dirty dishes on the counter.  :roll: [/quote]

Oh stop. We literally have zero toilet paper and have had to shower after pooping and I am using my kids’ toothpaste because H didn’t follow through on restocking when he volunteered for the task. Most days he either sleeps in until 10am, or locks himself in the bedroom in the evening to nap until 9pm. This is WAY beyond a few dishes left on the counter. [/quote]

Why can’t someone run out and get these things? Also, toilet paper and paper towels can delivered once a month by subscription on Amazon. I’m sure other things can be delivered that way too. For your own sanity you should look into that rather than relying on your DH. [/quote]
DP.. I agree with you, but basically, it does mean that her DH gets away with not doing anything.

As to the ^^PP about time management and being considered for the job:  here's the thing - most people, will pay attention to things that they care about, that they want to be doing. He's motivated to get the job, so of course, he's going to manage his time well doing his job.

Home stuff is boring as heck, and he doesn't want to do it. He gets zero compensation from doing home chores, so why do it? Plus, his wife will pick up his slack because he knows that she cares about *their* children and won't let their kids go hungry, etc.   That's his attitude.  That's the attitude of way too many men.

I'm not projecting. My DH is not like this, at all.  He encourages me to go out with friends; my friend on the west coast is going to get married in May. We have kids, so he told me I should plan on going, and he'll stay home and take care of the kids. He goes on costo runs; the grocery store.  And we make about the same.

Too many men are duds.[/quote]

Yeah, there are good men out there.  My mom was a SAHM and my Dad and Instill did the dishes together every night and he took us out just us all the time t9 give mom breaks.

My husband and I both work and share household and childcare tasks evenly.  When I got pneumonia and was stuck on bed he handled everything and there wasn't a mess waiting when I got better.  Men are not incapable of these things. [/quote]

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