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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait until you have at least 1 kid in public school with at least one sport or activity to decide on a 3rd.

Even if you are lucky enough to have 2 parents with the flexibility to drive kids around between 4-8pm, you need to be sociable and well liked enough that you can car pool. [/quote]

Or you can learn to set boundaries around the number and type of activities your kids do.  [/quote]

Yeah, okay. I loved doing activities/extracurriculars as a kid, and my kids love them too. Sure you can say no, but if they’re things that are enriching and make them feel fulfilled, are incremental more siblings that split attention further and reduce their childhood experiences worth it? You’d say yes, I say no.[/quote]

Idk- I’m one of four kids and growing up we all did lots of activities. My mom was kind of a martyr in those years. But we would stack things like tennis lessons, or both take at the same time with diff instructors. Or we did different activities different days of the week. She had a career with flexible afternoons though. I work full time and although it’s from home there’s less flexibility and even taking one kid to activities in the afternoon is hard.[/quote]

I don’t think anyone is saying activities can’t be juggled for 3 kids, but I also don’t think anyone can convincingly argue that it doesn’t fall into the “con” category of potentially going from 2 to 3 kids.  The extracurriculars, at least until your teen is old enough to drive him/herself, will be more of a hassle for 3.[/quote]

I’m the one who brought up setting boundaries - I mean, sure, activities are more of a hassle for three kids than for two kids.  How much of a con that is depends on how much you value doing All the Things.  Even if we had two, we’d set boundaries because we value having a family life that includes things other than a ton of extracurriculars.[/quote]

Yeah but this isn’t the whole story.  Even one activity per kid, a perfectly reasonable “boundary”, adds up when you have three kid.  For example, my son plays basketball - just that one rec sport translates to 2 practices per week and a game on the weekends.  Now multiply that by three.  It simply is going to be more work than if you had two kids.[/quote]

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