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Actually, I had no idea they were so strict on certain things! DH said he was ok marrying outside of the church, and I went obliviously along with it. I'm definitely not considering joining or attending mass, but I don't want to stand in his way, and I'm afraid I am, just by virtue of not wanting to be involved myself.[/quote]
My wife was raised Catholic and she insisted on marrying outside the church because we would have had to pledge to raise our kids Catholic. We are now the parents of two happily non-Catholic kids. I don't know if you have kids or plan to someday, but it might have been a factor for him.[/quote]

[b]We have kids, baptized outside the Catholic church. He says they're the reason he left for good[/b], but there's that nagging doubt that it's me (we had fights about me attending mass when we were first married). I mean, clergy of all denominations have abused children, so it seems like a tenuous reason for cutting ties completely with one specific church. Right?[/quote]

Why don't you just take him at his word?[/quote]

Because we had arguments about it when we first married. I had no idea what I'd gotten into.[/quote]

You didn’t get in to anything. Yours acting paranoid. Stop.

I’m Catholic and got married outside on the beach with a Lutheran pastor.  Maybe someday I’ll get my marriage blessed by a catholic priest, my secular Muslim/Protestant spouse who practices nothing wouldn’t mind.

We do send our kids to Sunday school so they know something about the history or religion and people.

There’s lots of reasons people leave their particular faith for another similar or drastically different - community, schools, marriage, current event, don’t care, whatever.

Stop sweating it. Who or what got to you OP?[/quote]

Ok, you got me. Over Christmas MIL confessed to DH that the real reason she and FIL didn't attend the kids' baptisms was because they were not in the Catholic Church and not because she was having knee surgery as she'd claimed (and yes, I know the Catholic Church considers them valid lay baptisms). She asked him what she did so wrong that he left the church.[/quote]

Hope he told her it had Maybe nothing to do with her.

Lots of parents feel they failed at teaching or strengthening a sense of religion or spirituality in their kids.

It can be one positive pillar to build and strengthen a sense of community, something sorely lacking in half this country.
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