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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s one kid, regardless of gender. It sounds like you don’t want to pay for her tbh. My son had an all-boys party and two boys brought their sisters (whom we paid for). Think of it as a kindness to the mom.[/quote]

You’re dragging OP for not wanting to pay for the girl to play laser tag? Of course she doesn’t, the girl isn’t her kid’s friend and isn’t invited.

But, hey, if you like paying for random kids to do stuff, you can do me a kindness by paying my kid’s hockey fees and while you’re at it, you can drive him to his practices.[/quote]
Did you read the part where the OP said the child’s father isn’t involved and that is why sister goes along everywhere? Omg you people are ruthless and I hope you are treated with the same cruelty you offer others.[/quote]

A younger sibling should not be tagging along elementary school parties.

My DH is involved but I have 3 kids. I have never invited a sibling along. I have taken a sibling many times to drop off or pick up.

My son is invited to a laser tag party later this month. I will be out of town. DH will likely take our daughter to drop off son at laser tag. DH will likely take daughter to nearby mall for an hour. We are friendly with family. I am sure they will offer Dh and my daughter pizza and cake. Dh will likely feed daughter at mall.

This is really not that hard.

I once had a laser tag party for my son in first grade. We invited our neighbor. Mom RSVPd for one child. It was a public venue so mom brought older daughter. I want to say she was 10 or 11 at the time. I think the mom had already paid for her separately. I would have been totally fine paying for her. She lives 2 doors from us. The older neighbor ended up having the highest score of the whole thing. Older girl did not join for cake or pizza. I don’t know if she kept playing more laser tag or mom left with her and came back to pick up younger child who was part of our party.

There are ways to bring siblings without being rude.

My kindergarten child was invited to a Chuck E. Cheese party. I took my 7yo too. I asked another friend to join him. Birthday mom said my older child could join the party but I said he is having a play date with a friend. He had his own table with pizza with his friend.

Another church e cheese party I had brought younger kid planning to just pay for him. I didn’t rsvp for younger kid. Parent handed him tokens and he just participated in the party. [/quote]
Of course a younger child shouldn’t tag along! That’s a given. It is rude. But according to OP, the younger sister always tags along specifically because there is no support from the father. OP [i]knows this[/i] about the child and still wants to exclude her based on gender (though it seems more like it is based on cost and headcount). The utter lack of grace in this thread is what is truly horrible, not this woman who has an unsupportive husband.[/quote]

My husband wasn't available to watch the kids on weekends when my kids were little, because he worked weekends.  Often people knew this and would tell me "bring his brother!" when there was a party.  I was very grateful for that.

But that ends when kids are old enough to drop off.   Mom can find some local Starbucks or other venue and have some precious 1:1 time with the little girl.

Having said that, the polite thing to do is to say "I'm afraid we don't have space for extra kids, so we can't accommodate siblings."  Not "eww yuck, no girls allowed!"[/quote]

Or how about "5th graders only!" so that the 2nd grader doesn't crash with mom. But really "no siblings" words just as well. 2nd graders don't belong at a 5th grade party.[/quote]

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