Reply to Anyone else here struggle with your feelings about ppl who don’t work?

Forum Index » Jobs and Careers

Reply to "Anyone else here struggle with your feelings about ppl who don’t work?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have very young kids (and work while the kids are in daycare) and I don't exactly struggle with my feelings about parents/people who don't have to work.  I have an involuntary mental reaction of jealousy -- my mom was a SAHM mom and I have a wonderful relationship with her, so I often wish I could recreate a similar childhood for my kids.  Unfortunately, it's not in the cards for me financially right now, although I'm trying to get there so I'll not be working crazy hours (hopefully not even full time) by the time my kids are in late elementary.  But I don't judge them; I just remind myself everyone has their own challenges.  Some people will have more or less at any point, but everyone's circumstances are truly unique and honestly something is ALWAYS hard, even if it's something that might seem trivial to an outsider.

To OP: I don't think you're jealous that they're staying at home and that you're not, since you said you did try staying home and it didn't work out, but you might be jealous that they seem to have figured out what appears to be (from the outside) a way to have minimal stress in their lives and that way is not available to you since you weren't comfortable staying home and work "crazy hours"?  I know often I am wildly jealous of people who seem to have "figured things out" [b]even if I don't necessarily want their actual life, I want their confidence with their choices. [/b] When I struggle with that, I usually remind myself of the above paragraph: everyone has hard things, and the external perception of confidence is not necessarily what someone is feeling inside.[/quote]

+100
I feel that this is at the very soul of most jealous and envious reactions to others. If you are genuinely happy with your choices and your life you will not envy others. But if you are not fully content and confident in your choices -- regardless of what those choices are -- you will be susceptible to what others choose and do.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics