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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]During a Facetime call, my SIL tells DH that their mom would like to bring the kids to visit SIL who lives overseas in Europe over the summer. MIL was also on the call. My kids will be 8 and 10 during the summer.  My MIL is 75 and divorced. My SIL (not married, no kids) has been recovering from a long term injury and uses crutches and has some mobility issues. My DH responded that they should talk to me about the kids schedule. I said no, the kids would not be going out of the country without us.  They got quiet and changed the subject but I know the discussion is not over. They will try to talk to DH at a time when I am not present and beg him to try to persuade me to change my mind. If this persists, I want to respectfully say no and not create animosity.

First off, I am not comfortable having anyone take my kids out of the country.  It has nothing to do with how much I trust my MIL. I wouldn't let anyone in my family take them either.  My MIL is 75 and I would not risk a situation where she has a medical emergency and my kids are in another country with no one to bring them home.  I don't want to risk a situation where one of the kids has a medical emergency and is in a hospital in another country and we are that far away from them.

I also think it is completely unreasonable to request to travel with young grandkids that far. SIL will be able to travel by summer.  She can come to us to see the kids. There is no reason for MIL to take them to SIL. This is just something they want to do for the experience of it.

Putting aside any issues about who is paying for it, am I being unreasonable to say no? [/quote]

[b]Wow, they really ambushed you.[/b]

No no no.

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How is this an ambush?  What approach would NOT have been an ambush?[/quote]

Asking OP and her husband privately.  That is what my SIL did before it was mentioned to anyone else.  That is how I knew I could trust her.  [/quote]

I’m sincerely confused.  It was OK for them to ask OP and her DH at the same time, but only one of them should have been present for the conversation?[/quote]

Are you being intentionally obtuse?

Asking the mother and father privately means not in front of the children. It’s common sense to ask the parents before you mention any type of vacation to children-especially an international trip like this.

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