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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People on this thread are insane.  [b]SOME ARE, AGREE[/b]

A connection is not created by blood relations.  [b]CORRECT[/b]

They require give and take, love and compassion.  [b]CORRECT[/b]

Your dad does not provide that, therefore you do not have a connection.  [b]TRUE for OP, be doesn’t truly connect with other humans 
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Your mom raised a good person so you help out where you need to but not out of great affection.  [b]CORRECT[/b]

I’d work on getting him into an over 55 community so as his needs increase you don’t get sucked in. [b] LOOK AROUND, it’s be good for his and your mental health. His learned helplessness and the enablement/codependency should be their burden. Otherwise, DRAW BOUNDARIES and don’t get sucked into his fake neediness. Keep your job, your husband, your kids, your life as top priorities. Do the visit granola schedule once a week or bimonthly,  invite him to relevant kid bday sorties, concerts, games once in awhile. Treat him and expect him to be a capable adult. He’s not mentally or physically disabled, he needs to get it together. It doesn’t sound like he’s mourning his wife, it sounds like he’s always been this way. I hate to say it, but should he date to find a new target, I mean woman to care for him?

Your mom was a saint Op.[/b]

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