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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People on this thread are insane.

A connection is not created by blood relations.

They require give and take, love and compassion.

Your dad does not provide that, therefore you do not have a connection.

Your mom raised a good person so you help out where you need to but not out of great affection.

I’d work on getting him into an over 55 community so as his needs increase you don’t get sucked in.

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I have an idea! How about OP quits her job, never gets married, never has kids and just takes care of her delinquent father for the next 30 years! 
This.[/quote]

This thread is objectively horrifying. Here we have a nice enough dad, someone who is a recent widow, someone who never abused his kids, who did his best to parent despite his background. And still DCUM’s advice is to “cut him off“ by sending him to a retirement community.

Whatever happened to grace and compassion. In every relationship any of us have ever been in, we need to let the other person know what we can do and what we can’t do. We don’t institutionalized them if they fall short.[/quote]

One person said that. It wasn’t “DCUM’s advice.”  Way to flatten a really nuanced topic.[/quote]

At least three people said “this” or “+1” to institutionalizing dad. Way to minimize facts. [/quote]

You realize that poster said more than find a retirement community? Which the posters could have been agreeing with.[/quote]

So “+1000” poster meant “except the retirement community” thing but just didn’t type that? Sure. [/quote][/quote]

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